Today is Day 18 in the affirmation challenge where we are going deeper with afformations to help you better understand your mind and how to stop sabotaging yourself.
The Scales Of Success
We typically think in terms of the cost or benefit for pursuing a particular goal. Take Noah St. John’s example from his book, The Secret Code of Success:
Each moment your mind is weighing your perceived benefit against your perceived cost of doing any behavior or activity you can think of. Each decision you make is based on “Why-To’s” and “Why-Not-To’s”.
If everyone wants success how come most people never achieve that desired level of success? It’s because the perceived cost of success is greater than the benefit of success.
What are the perceived costs of success?
- It’s going to take too much time to be successful.
- I’m too busy – look at my to-do list!
- I don’t want extra responsibility
- What if my family doesn’t approve?
- What if someone laughs at me?
- What if I lose my friends?
- What if I lose it all?
- Money is evil…
- What if, what if….
But look at the costs for choosing not to succeed:
- Stress of residual bills.
- Disease and medical bills created from stress and not taking care of yourself.
- Cost of self-help programs never implemented.
- Broken families because there’s no time for them.
- And so on…
Everyone can succeed, they just need to have the right tools and apply them consistently for success.
- Have a strong desire for change
- Set your goals
- Visualize your goals
- Believe in yourself
- Use afformations – work smarter, not harder
Eliminate Self Sabotaging Blocks
Afformations allow you to change, or reprogram, the thought pattern of your subconscious mind.
Your Head Trash – Your Success Block
Most of us carry around a lot of dis-empowering head trash. These are dis-empowering beliefs. Many of these beliefs carry forward in the form of questions.
The default human belief is that you are not enough. Then to justify this belief you either compare yourself to some imaginary unattainable standard or you compare yourself to other people who have more, have accomplished more, or appear to be more than you are.
For example, here are some dis-empowering beliefs you may ask yourself consciously or subconsciously: I’m not enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not rich enough, I’m not tall enough, witty enough, thin enough, attractive enough…and so on.
These statements further transfer into questions like: “Why am I not enough”; “Why am I not rich enough”; “Why wasn’t I born in the lucky sperm club”; “Why am I not attractive enough, thin enough?”.
That’s when you start asking questions that justify your dis-empowering self image and you start comparing yourself to those who have what we want: “How come so-and-so has more than me?”, “How come I can’t lose weight?”, “How come I can’t get anyone to join my business?”, How come people won’t buy my products?”, “How come I can’t get the things I want in life?”.
Law of Sowing and Reaping
According to the Law of Sowing and Reaping, dis-empowering questions will not lead to a life of success, but will lead to a dis-empowering, unfulfilling life. Just like when you plant corn seed you’re not going to get a tomato and when you plant a tomato seed you’re not going to get corn. So in order to get the results you want you have to plant the right seed.
The Mind-Iceberg Metaphor
With afformations, you’re changing the questions you’re asking from those that don’t serve you to those that do. An iceberg has the part that is seen above the surface, but the majority of the iceberg you don’t see and that’s below the surface. Likewise, your brain has two parts. There is the smaller part that you are aware of called the conscious mind and there is the more significant part you’re not aware of called the subconscious mind.
With afformations you are accessing the subconscious mind through the conscious mind, reprogramming your subconscious mind to work in alignment of your goals and aspirations. This eliminates all the potential self-sabotaging road blocks.
You truly are your greatest friend and your greatest enemy, starting with your self-talk. Each morning and throughout the day you make a choice which one you’re going to be.
God Gives What You Ask For – Good Or Bad
Your mind is connected to all that is possible in the Universe, all Intelligence, through God’s love and power. According to scripture He promises to give you whatever it is you ask for. Whether you’re asking for more abundance and wealth, or whether you’re asking for more bills, struggle or lack of.
Matthew 7:7: “Ask and it shall be given you; seek and ye shall find.”
Matthew 21:22: “And all things whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.”
Therefore, if you want a different life you need to ask different questions, then take those actions that align with your goals.
Your questions are the seeds of a new life that you have planted. But just like a gardener needs to take action to water and fertilize the seeds in order to produce fruit, you also need to take action in order to produce results.
Four Steps To Create Afformations:
- Ask yourself what in fact you want out of all the infinite possibilities.
- Form a question which assumes that what you want is already true
- Give yourself to that question in #3 allowing your mind to actively search for the answers.
- Take new and different ACTIONS based on your new assumptions.
Applying Afformations
For example, sales person wanted to get more referrals each day. Instead of repeating to himself the affirmation, “I am a lean influential referral generating machine.”, he asked, “Why do I get referrals each day?”. As a result, he found that he started doing his daily tasks differently which lead to going from zero referrals a day to 5-9 referrals each day. The referrals were high quality and ended up tripling his monthly sales almost overnight.
The difference is that when you create empowering questions, which assume you have already achieved your ideal goal, your subconscious mind already assumes this to be true and then pulls from the universe of known actions required for you take in order for this assumption to be true. You see, your actions activate both the law of sowing and reaping and the law of attraction.
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Day 18 Afformation Assignment
For each of the 10 key areas of your Level 10 life, create 1 afformation in the form of an empowering question that will help achieve your ideal for that area. Refer to Day 4 of the challenge.
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